Let’s get real. Money stress sucks. And I don’t mean just a little bit. It sucks – sucks the life out of everything and everyone it comes in contact with.
Want to know how I know?
Because I’ve lived it. I’ve been there done that got my t-shirt, and I don’t ever want to come back.
Maybe you feel the same way?
I know that for my family, we felt this stress every time we weren’t living into our values. Every time we found ourselves chasing something other than the life we truly wanted to live.
Yes, I know, it’s all the rage right now to have everyone, and anyone tell you how to “manifest your destiny” and “you deserve to have the best life possible” and the list goes on and on.
But guess what?
Nothing happens until you put that action into place. Raise your hand if you have a budget. Now, keep your hand raised if that budget is written down –
like on a piece of paper or on your computer. Okay, now once more, hold your hand raised if you
actively manage that budget – meaning, you track your expenses and adjust your budget as necessary throughout the month – not just at the month’s end.
Not going to lie here. We’ve been the ones to have a “budget” but that budget was just in our heads, and we had no real idea what our money was really doing. And we’ve been the ones with a perfectly written down budget, but we never looked at again.
And we’ve been the ones to not only have a written down budget but a working budget – meaning we’ve been actively managing and paying attention to our budget almost every single day.
Here’s the thing, I’m not judging you if you don’t have a budget and I’m certainly not judging you if you have a budget but haven’t even looked at this month.
I’ve been there. I still sometimes find myself there. I get you-you aren’t alone in this camp.
But also know how incredibly stressful that is. I know what it’s like to live in that static. I know that suffocating feeling. Trust me. Money issues will happen all throughout your life. You can’t predict the future.
You don’t know if you or your spouse will be laid off one day – sure maybe that’s ten years away, but regardless, you don’t know any of that for a fact.
Just like you don’t know if a significant medical crisis is headed your way or a serious car accident.
We aren’t fortune tellers. And these types of money issues can and unfortunately sometimes do happen.
I’ll never forget when my husband called me from work to tell me that I needed to get our 8-month old son in the car and ready because my husband needed to go to the hospital.
He had fallen out of a two-story window and landed on the driveway below. To say that it is a miracle that he only shattered his left wrist and fractured his right elbow is an understatement.
But I’ll also never forget the relief we felt knowing we had the cash to pay for his emergency surgery. Granted we didn’t like draining our emergency fund, but knowing that we were able to avoid credit card debt was an incredible stress reliever during a very stressful time in our lives.
I want that for you, friend. I truly do. And I know you can have it. You tell me, what is one thing you plan to do this very weekend to make the most out of your finances? Write down your budget? (see
this post here for a quick way of creating a budget) Or maybe it’s going through all of your transactions this month and verifying that your budget is on target? Or is maybe figuring out how to beef up your savings or pay off a looming debt?
Whatever it is, comment below and tell me! I love cheering you on!
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I love writing about my family's journey towards financial freedom and about ways to optimize your life, save money, and live well! Here are a few more ways you can save money:
- Cook at home. During our debt-free journey we NEVER went out to eat because we honestly couldn't afford it, and now, even though we could afford it, we still don't go out to eat that often. But I'll be honest, meal planning was such a struggle for me during that time, but it totally saved our budget when I did it effectively! I ended up using a meal planning service for about two years which helped me not only meal plan better, but also helped me to create wholesome, healthy, and delicious meals for my whole family! You can see all the details and try different meal plans based on your preferences here .
- Earn gift cards. A simple way to earn a little extra money from home by using the Swagbucks site instead of Google for searching. I actually still do this to earn Home Depot gift cards for all our home projects. You can also do surveys and a few other things to earn points, which you redeem to purchase gift cards from them. Swagbucks is what we used to earn Amazon gift cards to help pay for Christmas or cash through PayPal to help pay off our debt faster. You can sign up for Swagbucks here.
- Switch Cell Phone Providers. One of the best things we did on the debt-free journey was to switch from our super expensive $150+ a month cell phone bill to a much more affordable plan! In fact, my cell phone bill is only $30 a month (my husband's plan is paid by his business)! Check out Mint Mobile here to see if you can save your family some money!
- Create a budget. It took us a while to figure out a budget that works well for our family, but the two things that we have used over the years and still do (and still love) are my Budget Binder and Personal Capital (online budgeting software). You can see my Budget Binder tutorial here and check out Personal Capital here.
It helps me to check my bank accounts daily and make a running list and budget to make sure that my financial goals are staying on track. But 100% money stress is the WORST.
Jessica,
Thank you for your honest approach about a budget. I find myself budgeting in my head and then at the end of the month looking to see where all the money has gone. I see that you check your budget daily. As a Christian, I sometimes feel like I am making money an idol by thinking about it and stressing about it. I really need to set up a budget so we can make better use of our money, time, and values. What are your thoughts? I
Thanks for all of your encouragement! I’ve never fully committed and I need to now. I’m 53 years old, make good money and my savings are gone 😢
I have an iPad but no computer to do spreadsheets on so I guess I need to go old school on paper. I just got a notebook for it but need to comb thru your posts again and learn this for real!
Hey, I think there was supposed to be a link where it says:
“Write down your budget? (see this post here for a quick way of creating a budget) “
Thank you so much, Blair, for pointing that out! You’re correct, there is supposed to be a link there! Here is the correct link: https://jessifearon.com/2016/05/the-quick-start-budget.html and I apologize for forgetting it!