5 Tips for Showing Up For Yourself Every Day

“How do you do have time for this”? “How do you do it all”? “You are super woman”. These are all questions and statements that I have heard and have been emailed to me over the last couple of months. Truthfully, I wish I did it all and I wish I had the kind of time I would like to have to truly build my site, be there for my family, and still enjoy life, but I do not have that kind of and chances are neither do you.

In my Become the Mom You’ve Always Wanted to Be post, I discussed how getting up before my household allows me to start my day with accomplishments rather than defeats. Through the exercise of getting up early every.single.day including the weekends, I have learned the valuable lesson of showing up for yourself.

I know many bloggers who are just starting out want to know the magic formula to creating a large blog with millions of views a month, (my blog is noooooo where near that, just FYI) but the truth is, there is no secret sauce to blogging. It took me two years to monetize my blog to where I am actually earning a profit from it.

No matter where you are in your journey, showing up for yourself is the most important thing you can do. You decide how to make it work for you. I get up at five every morning, even when I do not feel like it. Sometimes there is a little booger butt crying that I have to bribe to stay in bed so mommy can work. There have been nights were I have had to stay up late in order to do interviews, write my books, or even just so the laundry can be done.

There have been mornings where I have had to get up earlier than five in order to ensure that projects can be completed before our day’s activities begin. There have been days were I am stuck in front of a computer screen, tablet, and phone all day long. There are days where I am grouchy, yelling kind of mom to my kids and there are days where I am a terrible wife to my amazing hubs. There are days were everything goes amazingly well.

The truth is, I do not do it all and I definitely do not do it well even when I do “do it all”. However, if you are looking for ways to make showing up for yourself every day on this journey a little easier, these five things that have helped me:

Discipline

This is key to anything in life, from budgeting and money management, to blogging and running your own business, and to raising children. If you do not have self-discipline, it will be very difficult to show up for yourself every day. Look over your schedule and determine where you can fit in time to work on your goals that will not disrupt your family’s life. Chances are, that time is sometime in the wee morning hours. Even though you may not be a morning person (I certainly am not), try it for thirty days and see if it does not help you start showing up for yourself every day.

Goals

Whether or not you are trying to grow a blog or if you are just trying to find more time for yourself every day, you need to have SMART goals in place. SMART stands for, Specific, Measureable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely. Maybe your goal is to just find better balance managing your home. Set goals for yourself to find a system that works, such as a cleaning schedule that makes keeping your house clean manageable. If you need more help figuring out how to set goals, look over my Three Steps to Setting Financial Goals which will help you determine not only how to set financial goals but life goals as well.

Tell Your Time

One of my most favorite reads is Tell Your Time * by Amy Lynn Andrews. If you have not read this amazing and quick read, I encourage you too. It fundamentally changed how I manage my time and made me truly understand that there are only twenty-four hours in one day – you cannot add more time to the day and thus have no control over it. Stop trying to fit too much into one day. Figure out what your priorities are and show up for yourself.

Change and Change Again

Be flexible. If getting up at five every morning to show up for yourself is not working after thirty days, it probably will not work after a hundred. Change the time you get up and try it for thirty days, if it still does not work, change it again. Keep making changes when things are not working. Life has different seasons and we must change with them in order to keep up.

Get More Done in Less Time

This goes along with telling your time – get more done in less time. Multitasking can be great when you are doing laundry and listening to a webinar, but it is extremely toxic to your schedule when you try to do too much in a short amount of time. Instead of trying to write content/complete a project, answer emails, be active on social media, and teach your kids their colors, pick one task to complete at a time. If you have small children as I do, they will more than likely interrupt you five zillion times. Make sure you spend quality time with them in small increments. For me, I try to spend at least ten minutes every hour to hour and a half with my boys. This helps to keep them from “needing” me every ten seconds and allows me to have more balance.

Showing up for yourself is one of the best things you can do for you. It requires an insane amount of discipline and practice but is worth it. You are just as important to your family as your family is important to you. Make sure you are allowing yourself the time to make your projects work for you by showing up for yourself every single day.

How do you show up for yourself every day?

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