I get it. I know hard it can be to sacrifice. Whether the sacrifice is by choice or by need. At some point during everyone’s frugal journey is a breaking point. A moment when you just feel like you don’t have enough. You’ve cut everything there is to cut and there’s nothing left.
You feel like your family doesn’t have enough. You wish that your children had birthday parties and more toys, and you wish that your husband could go out with the guys more (or even grab a sandwich with his co-workers). This is such a long journey. It’s not just a week or two that you have to stay upbeat and motivated. This journey will likely take years. And it’s so hard.
When you get to that moment… That point that breaks your drive and will, I want you to tell yourself these three things.
Adversity grows character.
Some of the strongest, bravest, most amazing people that I know came out of tougher situations than these. The next time you look at your children and wish that you could give them an iPhone or a fancy birthday party, stop yourself at that thought. Remember that you’re raising appreciative children that understand sacrifice, priorities and the consequences of their decisions. One of the best things that you can give your children is to lead by example. To show them what it means to be an adult, to be responsible and to live within their means. That will do so much more for them than an iPhone.
Perspective is everything.
You have so much more than others. When you feel like you don’t have enough, I want you to look at yourself from the eyes of a Syrian refugee. They have almost no money, very little clothing, food or access to clean water. They don’t have homes. Much of their family is dead or missing. If they get sick or need help, there are few places to turn to. The likelihood of being raped or assaulted in their lifetime is frighteningly high.
You are so incredibly blessed. What seems like “rock bottom” to you may seem like “a privileged life” to someone else.
This isn’t the end of your story.
Where you are now financially is NOT where you will end. You are sacrificing for a reason. You have goals and dreams that will absolutely be achieved. No matter how bad it is right now, no matter how hopeless your financial situation seems… it will get better. It will get turned around. For every moment of sorrow you have now, you will have moments of glory later. Just keep moving forward.
When these moments happen (and they will), see them as proof that you’re on the path you should be. It’s completely normal to have ups and downs on such a long journey of transformation. There’s a reason why everyone doesn’t do this. It’s incredibly hard. And it’s so easy to quit, open up a credit card and buy Jimmy Choo’s until you start to feel better. You’re not going to do that though. You’re in this to win.
You’re doing something most people will never do. There’s strength in you. You can this. We can help.
What was your breaking point? When did you feel like you just couldn’t do it any more?
Rosemarie Groner is a formerly stressed, overworked and exhausted mom who loves blogging almost as much as she loves brownies. She writes at The Busy Budgeter about how she used the free Ultimate Money Saving Workbook to reduce their spending enough to be able to quit her job, stay home with her kids and then found way to make up her salary at home. She’s still working on the cure for exhaustion.
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